Relational Needs

Relational Needs


Physical and emotional vulnerabilities are protected, honoured and preserved

The absence of actual or anticipated anger


To be validated and affirmed as being significant

Our thoughts, and feelings are validated as significant and important to another person,

someone cares about how things are for us.


Acceptance by a stable dependable and protective other.

The need to look up to and rely upon ,parents, teachers, elders and mentors, to gain protection, encouragement, and information by a reliable significant other.

Confirmation of personal experiences, to be in the presence of someone similar someone who understands because he or she has ‘been there’,or is ‘like me’, to have our experience believed universally.

Self definition

To know and express our own uniqueness and to receive acceptance.

To make an impact on another person, to have an influence that effects another person in some desired way, making a positive difference in the world of another’s personal life.

To have another person initiate

the impetus for making contact comes from the other someone who reaches out to us, to call us, to sit with us.

To express love

To have our love received by another person to express quiet gratitude giving affection, thankfulness, or doing something for someone else,to have our gifts accepted.