Relationship counselling

 

All couples disagree at some point in the relationship.

Here are a few guides to help decide if therapy is the right step for you..

  1. Have conversations become difficult  with ongoing misunderstandings?
  2. less able to discuss issues effecting the relationship
  3. Avoiding contact, ( This can be a sign of other issues, and often therapy can help define that )
  4. spending less time together or often more in others company, avoiding being alone for fear of arguments.
  5. working later to avoid home
  6.  Trial separation

Communication is key to a healthy relationship,  Being able to discuss how to move forward in an environment that is different from the home often eases tension and, communication becomes more open leading to a better way forward.

 

Relational recovery    Finding support where one partner has had a alcohol and/or drug issue, When a family member is in recovery, the focus can still be on their addiction and the past problems that created, therapy can help with separating out the responsibility focusing on the family unit in a healthier way.

Relational Needs

Security: Physical and emotional vulnerabilities are protected, honored and preserved, The absence of actual or anticipated anger

Validation: To be validated and affirmed as being significant, Our thoughts, and feelings are validated as significant and important to another person, someone cares about how things are for us.

Acceptance: Acceptance by a stable dependable and protective other. The need to look up to and rely upon, parents, teachers, elders and mentors, to gain protection, encouragement, and information by a reliable significant other. Confirmation of personal experiences, to be in the presence of someone similar someone who understands because he or she has ‘been there’,or is ‘like me’, to have our experience believed universally.

Self definition: To know and express our own uniqueness and to receive acceptance. To make an impact on another person, to have an influence that effects another person in some desired way, making a positive difference in the world of another’s personal life. To have another person initiate, the impetus for making contact comes from the other someone who reaches out to us, to call us, to sit with us.

To express love: To have our love received by another person to express quiet gratitude giving affection, thankfulness, or doing something for someone else,to have our gifts accepted.

 

 

Therapy intervention is a healthier forward for many relationships.

contact Sandra: 07928299517