Couples Therapy

 

Welcome this is the first step on the journey to healing your relationship.

The portrayed romanticism of a happy ever after in films or songs, provides an unrealistic expectation of relationships and can set the scene for disappointments and confusion; it is more reasonable to understand your needs, learn how to communicate those effectively to find your version of a happy ever after.

 

Here are the basic relational needs, therapy can help with:

Security: Physical and emotional vulnerabilities are protected, honoured and preserved, The absence of actual or anticipated anger.

Has the communication become unmanageable where silence or heightened emotions are part of everyday life?

Validation: To be validated and affirmed as being significant, Our thoughts, and feelings are validated as significant and important to another person, someone cares about how things are for us.

Has the compassion for one another become less than when you first began the relationship?

Acceptance: Acceptance by a stable dependable and protective other. The need to look up to and rely upon, parents, teachers, elders and mentors, to gain protection, encouragement, and information by a reliable significant other. Confirmation of personal experiences, to be in the presence of someone similar someone who understands because he or she has ‘been there’, or is ‘like me’, to have our experience believed universally.

Do you feel misunderstood or feel you are misunderstanding your partners needs? 

Self definition: To know and express our own uniqueness and to receive acceptance. To make an impact on another person, to have an influence that effects another person in some desired way, making a positive difference in the world of another’s personal life. To have another person initiate, the impetus for making contact comes from the other, someone who reaches out to us, to call us, to sit with us.

Do you feel you have lost a sense of togetherness in the relationship? 

To express love: To have our love received by another person to express quiet gratitude giving affection, thankfulness, or doing something for someone else, to have our gifts accepted.

Have commitments taken over so you have less time for one another?

Relational recovery    Finding support where one partner has had a alcohol and/or drug issue, When a family member is in recovery, the focus can still be on their addiction and the past problems that created, therapy can help with separating out the responsibility focusing on the family unit in a healthier way.

Are you finding difficulty in moving forward together in recovery?

I provide a confidential environment  face to face  or online.

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