#Anxiety calming

We hear so many ways to deal with anxiety, mindfulness and Psychotherapy are one of the ways that can help to unlearn this, and learn better ways to cope with the world and its pressures.

Learning  to calm the mind , by calming the overactive part of the brain that has the body constantly in a state of anxiety is more important than worrying how to get rid of that, or why it wont stop.

Psychotherapy can help with seeing why it happens and where the anxiety came from and in many ways can help to ease the constant cycle of worry by noticing the triggers earlier.

so many people have the same question

How do i get rid of my anxiety? Avoiding the lion attack.

Getting rid of anxiety would mean we have no fight and flight mode, and this is very important for keeping us safe in an emergency, if the emergency is real or we need to swoop quickly from one thing to another as a case of life or death, in that case the brain is very efficient, if not then its time to learn to calm the brain

By recognizing triggers and acknowledging that anxiety would defiantly save you from a dangerous situation; ‘a lion attack’, and realizing, that is not the case, this begins the journey of calming the part of the brain that is constantly on hyper alert , the part that is always ready for danger, by acknowledging that has happened, and learning to be more in the moment and calming the breath, you can begin to be less in a hyper state of awareness and more in a state of calm.

Lets learn to relax

Take a moment now to Focus in on the breath. Take a moment to be aware of the breath to be in the moment, not to control the breath by deep breathing, just to be aware of how that is, focusing on the breath can help to ease the anxiety by simply becoming focus on something else, like the breath, if you need to take one or two deep breaths do this now before focusing again and noticing this is what has happened before gently coming back to the breath, do this for 1 minute if you can, using this technique and expanding the time to 5 minutes each time you need this will help to focus the mind more  and be less focused on preparing for danger,

what we practice we get better at at.

One way to become easier in recognizing this is taking time each day to be in the moment to recognize where those wandering thoughts take you and to come back to that moment you are in , not beating yourself up by telling yourself off for not being able to do this efficiently, just by simply recognizing that is what has happened, making this easier to do when anxiety happens in social situations or when out shopping or waking in the night.

Bringing the focus to the breath may take some time yet spending time building the fight and flight mode is how anxiety develops and practicing focusing the mind on the breath will produce better soothing results.

Sandra Williams



as spring arrives it can bring up not only flowers this time of year can bring emotions up, for many people have seasons of their lives

happy times can follow sad times

sad times can follow happy times

how each person copes with these times determines how happy they can be feeling

spring can be a great time of joy the sun is appearing again flowers are in bloom, yet for some this can seem like the darkest of days as if winter is still around.

If you have noticed you are feeling like this, talking to someone can be a great way forward


A time for change and growth?

many people are questioning at this time how they can change for the better and want to put into their action plan choosing a therapist.

The importance of knowing where you are in life are you:

Pre-contemplating a new life choice and looking towards change?

Pre-contemplator – Are you ready to take action and have all the support you need in place?

Action – Are you taking action already and need some guidance and help with keeping motivated?

Have you stepped back into wishing you could be motivated to keep the change going?

Are you keeping motivated and in the maintenance stage and want to add therapy as an extra way of keeping motivated and healthy? – The maintenance stage

Do you recognize and avoid pitfalls and want to add therapy to prevent stepping back to your old pattern of behavior and thinking and becoming demotivated at unavoidable stressful times?



contact Sandra : 07928299517

many people still have the value that dealing with problems is a one person problem, attitudes today are changing towards a different approach and many choose Counselling as a way forward.

There is still some  stigma to saying you have depression or are suffering from stress and wondering if therapy will be for you, family and friends may seem unsupported at first.

looking after mental health is as important for the well being of a person as choosing the right exercise program or a better eating plan.

Our inner critic 

How do we tame the inner critic (ourselves)

How do we make friends with the past to become all we can be?

If we have built up over the years a sense of safety and protection in our self criticism what will happen to us?

How  can we begin to unravel this?

What will happen as we begin this journey of self discovery to find our greatest enemy could be ourselves?

working through this can bring great rewards as you increase in awareness of  who you are in the world.

learning to quieten the inner critic is for many easier than they thought, as the journey of therapy is undertaken.

Remember: #Change always begins one step at a time.

slow progress is better than no progress